We know it’s important to take time to relax, but the question is: do you know HOW to relax? How to relax in a way that leaves you feeling restored? That boosts your immune system? That makes you feel like a delicious puddle of bliss?
How often do you have time to relax and you reach for a bottle of wine that might make you feel less than fantastic after, or reach for your phone to mindlessly scroll through social media only to bombard your mind with photo after photo of what other people are doing with their lives which then sends you into a self-comparison spiral, or maybe the moment you are done with work you are planning for what you have to do the following day.
We need moments of silence.
We need moments of nothing.
We need moments to just be.
When practicing Restorative Yoga you take a shape with your body, sometimes flat on the floor and sometimes propped up with lots of pillows and blocks and blankets, and you hang out there for anywhere from 5-20 minutes and just let yourself BE. That’s the key. Letting yourself BE instead of making yourself DO. There’s nothing to DO.
The time you spend practicing Restorative Yoga might be the only time of the day that you allow yourself to really rest, that you allow yourself to feel supported, that you allow yourself to L E T G O.
Ideally you want to set yourself up with enough props in each pose that you feel fully supported, super comfy, and you can fully surrender your body weight into the props and into the ground.
With a restorative yoga practice you will learn to soften your mind and to soften your body. As your body softens you will have more room for breath. As you take deeper breaths (in particular longer exhales), you will activate your parasympathetic nervous system (PNS). When you activate the PNS you can finally relax. When you relax your body softens even more. When your body softens more your breathing becomes easier…and so on and so on…until you melt into a puddle on the floor ;)
It’s time for you to take a break, give your weight to the earth, and let yourself be. Learn to be soft with yourself, kind with yourself, and to just be with yourself. Life is hard. It just is. It’s full of struggle, suffering, and the unknown. But there is also an opportunity to create more space for peace, for joy, and for bliss.
One roadblock some people encounter when practicing restorative yoga is that we are so used to doing, taking action, working, and planning that sometimes we don’t quite know how to relax. If you find that your mind won’t stop going, that’s totally normal. This is a practice. As you practice restorative yoga, yin yoga, or meditation over time you gradually get better at being with your thoughts and feelings and softening into the present moment. Over time you will also get better at detecting habitual holding patterns of tension in your body and mind. Eventually you will notice the tension in your body even when you’re not practicing yoga and you can mindfully let go throughout the day. Relaxing is a practice.
On a meditation retreat I did at IMS last year I kept repeating this phrase to myself: